Featured Image: Ava Gardner as Venus in the 1948 film ‘One Touch of Venus’
This month on The Luminessence I am blogging about all things weddings, relationships, and love from a cosmic perspective of course. In this blog I will be discussing how your Venus influences your romantic relationships.
The Venus Archetype
Venus represents the following:
-What we desire sexually
-What we need and want in life
-Our essential needs
-What we value
-What we perceive we need in ourselves, others, & the world.
We look at Venus in its sign and house which shows us where and how the archetype feel secure. You look to its polarity for missing information, for objectivity, and to alchemize the original archetype. The polarity is how you grow. Find your Venus sign down below to learn about the karmic implications of your relationships.
I’m Your Venus
Venus in Aries– you are in a brand new cycle of desires and needs in this lifetime. You are learning to be selfish in relationships because in your past life you were too much in your Libra polarity whereby you were too selfless in your romantic relationships. You are learning to be yourself.
Venus in Taurus- Your values are the most important thing to you. You feel secure when your needs are met. You confuse material security with emotional security. You have to go to your Scorpio polarity to shake you up and unglue you from your stubbornness. When you refuse to change your values, the Scorpio polarity steps in to shake things up. When you remove your possessions you have to go back into yourself. Your Venus in Taurus is teaching you to be self-reliant. You cannot depend on your partner for emotional or material security in this lifetime.
Venus in Gemini- Your Venus is here to learn to explore and diversify your values. You don’t know everything, and your way is not necessarily the right way. You tend to be too critical of your partners which is when the Sagittarius polarity steps in to help you realize that there are many different value systems out there. You are here to learn to accept the diverse needs that people have. Just because some people don’t think the same way you do, doesn’t mean they are inferior to you. Accept the different needs of your partner, but don’t be adoptive of them either. Continue to use your Gemini intellect to analyze their values, but don’t be overly critical of them.
Venus in Cancer- Your values and needs are emotionally based. You can have bouts of emotional withdrawal when something triggers you. This is when you go inwards to figure it out. This is usually when subconscious emotions are being made conscious. If you find yourself getting lost in your feelings look to your Capricorn polarity for grounding. In almost every case, a person with Venus in Cancer will either isolate themselves in their relationships or look for a parental partner. You are here to learn how to mature on your own rather than letting your Capricorn polarity tell you what to do. Go with the flow rather than drowning in the flow of emotions that can consume you.
Venus in Leo- Your Venus is here to learn that it’s not all about you! You tend to give from your own perspective rather than from your Aquarius polarity- you have to be able to see others needs. Venus in Leo feel they need their partners to give them what they need, thus there is an imbalance with giving and receiving. Your Venus is here to learn to see the bigger picture. There are other people you have to consider.
Venus in Virgo– Venus begins transitioning from self to others in Virgo. Venus in Virgo natives suffer from an inferiority complex. You struggle with self-love, and self-forgiveness thus you can be involved in some pretty awful relationships because there is a part of you that feels you deserve it. This is when you have to look to your Pisces polarity for guidance. You must learn to accept your flaws and tools such as meditation and yoga can help foster a sense of inner peace. It’s only through the Virgo effort of cultivating self-love that you will evolve into the perfect relationship.
Venus in Libra- This Venus can be extremely needy and manipulative. You know what to say to your partner to get what you want rather than just saying it. Step into your Aries polarity to meet your own needs first, and then your partners. You will have a variety of romantic relationships in your life which will challenge you on this. Why try to always please your partner to keep things steady, when you can just be honest and grow closer as a result?
Venus in Scorpio- This Venus attracts what it needs more than any other sign. Venus in Scorpio is always magnetizing others to them. You tend to manipulate sex to get what you want- either you withhold it or will be very promiscuous. This is when the Taurus polarity will come forth. You have to take care of your own needs to avoid co-dependency. Be what you need.
Venus in Sagittarius- This Venus has very deep philosophical needs in relationships. If the relationship is not exciting and intellectual, you are gone. You can be deceitful in relationships. Venus in Sagittarius can be too accepting of everything because it’s all about the bigger picture. Go back into the Gemini polarity to get back into the details. It’s usually the little things in relationships that turn into the bigger problems down the road. Your Venus has to learn relativity of truth.
Venus in Capricorn- This Venus is about suppressing your own needs and values without honouring your own. You tend to bury your feelings because you don’t want to be vulnerable. Use the Cancer polarity to ask yourself “how do I really feel about this?” Realize that you have emotional needs too and the only way to fully embody your Capricorn Venus is to heal your suppressed emotions. Venus in Capricorn also prefers non-sexual touching, so if you struggle with getting in touch with your feelings, simply holding hands with your partner can open you up.
Venus in Aquarius- This Venus is about being oblivious to your own values. You are so detached that you are not experiencing yourself. You spend too much time in your head and you tend to value “freelove” and that “anything goes.” To get you focused and present in the relationship, your Leo polarity will shock you. Venus in Aquarius is afraid to engage so something shocking like abuse or the unexpected in a relationship will reset you.
Venus in Pisces- This Venus is exalted meaning it has full power here. However, Venus in Pisces feels everyone else’s needs more than their own. They lack healthy boundaries, because let’s face it, Venus is self-indulgent, so the last thing it wants is to feel caged in. Your Virgo polarity will give you a reality check. Don’t look at your partners like God just because you feel you understand them like no one else can. You have to learn to view your partners as human, and know that you are not here to save everyone. Be critical in a constructive way.
Venus retrograde is the rarest retrograde there is to have natally. This is about getting clear on what your values and needs are. Souls born with this are here to rebel, review, re-evaluate, redo, and relive.
Your Venus has had resistance in evolving. When she is retrograde, she has reached her maximum of refusing to grow.
You did not learn how to create your own value system. In this lifetime you are meant to ask the following questions:
Who am I? What’s important to me?
You feel like you dont’t fit in, and are a loner. Any relationships you do have will be karmic. 20% of those with a natal Venus RX have never been in an initimate relationship. You will also find that you are attracted to those with strong Aquarius, Uranus, & 11th house energies due to their rebellious nature.
Venus Retrograde is here to learn how to have a deep relationship with souce and with yourself. You have to feel like you trust someone very deeply before you will be in a serious relationship with them.
Don’t view your Venus RX as a curse, rather it’s a blessing, because you will have a great opportunity in this lifetime to really get to know yourself which most people spend a lifetime doing. The better you know yourself, the easier it will be trust others.
Thanks for reading! Did you resonate with your Venus?